04 May Advise to one who has forgotten hifdh
Assalaamu ‘alaykum wa Rahmatullah
Beloved Qur’an sisters,
As Ramadan approaches, there’s an increase in hifdh – related questions from our blog readers. They cover a range of topics and concerns, but there is one aspect that I’d like to address today, and that is: the shame and guilt which Qur’an bearers experience.
It breaks my heart to hear from haafidhaat who, upon realizing that Ramadan is so soon and feeling that their muraja’ah (dhorr / revision) has weakened or been neglected, hold back from seeking help, mentorship, or support.
Sometimes, it is out of fear or shyness, sometimes out of pride too, but more often than not, it is a sense shame or guilt that holds them back from nurturing a healthier, happier relationship with the Qur’an.
All too often I hear from haafidhaat who’ve told me that it’s taken them weeks, months, and sadly for some, even years, to seek help moving forward. They find themselves in a dark abyss of negative emotions which holds them back form focusing on the journey forward. Believe it or not, there are haafidhaat who have gone months and years without reviewing their hifdh, for fear of being ridiculed or scorned for having forgotten their hifdh. There are those who, too overwhelmed and burdened by the thought, loose hope and let go of this precious gift. And that’s when laziness or complacency sets in…
To you my message is: Do not give up. It is never too late to restore your relationship with the Qur’aan, to relearn those verses and recommit them to memory. Don’t let feelings of shame or guilt prevent you from honouring this precious gift. The only function of that shame or guilt should be to propel you forward, encouraging you to commit to a hifdh revision that works for you, your schedule, and your ability. Reflect, repent, and forge ahead, determined to relearn whatever you have forgotten. The Islamic culture of positive psychology is not one that is intend on demotivation or despair. No!
By Allah, I have seen students forgot more than 20 Ajzaa’ of the Qur’an, only to relearn it again, with the Mercy of Allah Ta’ala.
Do not be overwhelmed. Begin by noting how much is weak, and what type of revision or relearning you may require (maybe an intensive hour with your Mushaf? Reading out aloud to a Qur’an buddy? Or, relearning from the first word of that Juzz or Surah?) . Once you’ve established this, locate a teacher online or onsite who can support you through this and assist you in drawing up a lesson plan. The ball is now in your court: resolve to stick to the lesson plan, and work towards your short term and long-term goals.
Wishing you ease, optimism, and success, as you renew your hifdh journey!